I've been living a nightmare for the last 5 weeks with my husband, we all knew he had some form of OCD I've been living with him for 13 years as he was strict deadlines, wouldn't delegate task either at home or at work, clean and tidy as if everything needed to be in it's place, chairs pushed in, Dishes done before bed, unfinished projects cause they weren't perfect or couldn't finish them due to no money and much more........ the thing is now it's like his brain has switched off and all I get is a vacant stare when I try and talk to him about what is happening as he has become completely distant from me and can't explain what is going on in his head and only getting "I don't know" from him.
He had become secretive with his phone until the bill came and I found 107 pages of nearly only 1 consecutive number and they were all text messages, I found out he has been chatting to a woman I absolutely hate as she is a nasty piece of work when she drinks and I have only ever seen her drunk! now he was confiding in this drunk about his feelings and it even got to the point he was texting her he loved her! My heart felt stomped on! I confronted both of them and she said there was nothing in it and that she was only lending an ear and he said she made him feel better and that he thought he loved her as it was like a fantasy in his head because he was trying to escape reality. His lied many times there after about contacting her after I told him to stop and for her to stop, she has no business in what is happening to my husband and should have stopped all conversations when he started to declare his love for her she has a partner and I should in my right mind tell him what has been going on. The really screwed up part of this is that he doesn't see anything wrong with this at all as it made him feel better talking to her and in his head he was having a relationship with her but coming home to me! He doesn't grasp the concept that it killed me to read those messages to her and the phone bill being 107 pages long he even went as far as getting another phone just so he can fulfil his obsession with her and when caught out had no emotions whatsoever. He has not cheated with her, there has been no physical contact it has just been all through texting. The thing is I'm ready to end the marriage because I don't know if I can trust him anymore with all the deceit, and lying! BUT he tells me he loves me and doesn't want me to leave.
It's only been since yesterday his mother and I were reading up on OCPD and all the traits seem to fit him to a T! He has read the information and also believes he could be OCPD so now he is going to take the Info to his Psychologist tomorrow. I just hope that this is his first step to admitting he has a mental disorder as he has been denying that there is anything wrong but him just losing himself and not knowing what he wanted in life and thought this whole time it was a midlife crisis.
My trust for him however has been tested and I don't know if I could live with the dishonesty trait that he so possesses right now
How do you live with your OCPD Partner?