it is the principle of the thing
How many times have I heard that...One OCPD wife's favourite sayings "It doesn't matter about the facts, it's the principal
". eg. "It doesn't matter that the carpet CAN be cleaned, it's the PRINCIPAL of not getting it dirty in the first place that matters"...
And no, I can almost never ask the right questions or convey the right information. Dont forget anything.
I get quizzed on every phonecall, every conversation. Better still, she'll sit there while I'm on the phone and prompt and pull faces at me everytime I don't say it right or "give enough angry attitude, you're too nice...". So many times I have said "If you want it done a certain way, DO IT YOURSELF!!", the response being "I don't want to have to do everything myself, I want you to take some responsibility."...This being the start of a good JADEing session...
but then he wants to regift to someone else instead of giving it away
So now he wants to balance out that oopsie karma-wise by giving the old tv to someone who doesnt have a tv
Yep, all no-longer-required items are to be stored away until such time as they can be passed on to someone in need (usually her family, as OCPD mother in law won't buy anything new). All our old TVs, laptops, furniture, even mangy old carpets. When we refurbished the bathroom we had the old bath, toilet and basin stored out in the yard for a year 'just in case' someone needed them.
He searches for the best products for days, prints out info and finally purchases something.
OCPD wife searches for the best DEAL as opposed to best product. So you can rest assured the thing will do the bare minimums it needs to at the cheapest available price, as long as it got a 5 star rating review.. but of course there's always a 1 star review amonst them. I think the wonders of information technology have only contributed to worsening the OCPDers anxiety and decision making exercises...