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Yeah, I know that nasty *****. She needs the crap kicked out of her. I am posting here as a non-perfect mom. I have made mistakes. I have made a lot of mistakes. It took years for my kids to come back and say you did OK, Mom, thanks. That interim period was pure hell for me. I constantly doubted my abilities and my choices. I still have that voice in my head but she is helping me see where I could have done better and I'm doing better... one day at a time. I hope your interim period is short. ((HUGS))
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Post subject: Re: RT Lift-off...RikkiTikki's Chronicle
Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2016 11:24 pm
Joined: Thu Aug 28, 2014 1:09 pm Posts: 2315
Maybe it does just take some time. My children are checking in. My DD has come by and stayed longer than sh planned. She has vented. She has told me that she understands. My DS just asks how I'm doing and if things are getting easier and says that he loves me.
It is ok. It will get better. They have a safe and peaceful space with me. If I have to do the reaching out - ok. Pretty normal. I will not wait for them to choose beds any longer. I think they just need me to set it up for them. I can do that.
So what are we going to do with nasty *****? Just keep reminding ourselves and each other that she is insecure and full of BS. Then we are going to find a way to speak it out loud. Expose our vulnerability-shine a light on the monster in the closet. Suddenly that kicks the wind right out of nasty *****. The rational thoughts take over. That makes room for us to be able to appreciate the reality of a situation - like the REAL feedback from my kids. It makes space for the light to shine in.
We are good moms and learning to be human and flawed and maybe better moms because of that.
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