I'm sorry for that if I have misused folks time and attention. I can only say I typically say way too much, and was attempting to zero in on the issue that I was concerned about, that it was not behavior she and I believe is ok for her, and that I have subsequently realized is not a big deal (I was wrong, but needed help from others here in order to realize that). I even suggested yesterday that she dance with guys since it might be nice if she felt an unfamiliar set of hands on her while she had fun.
The last thing I want to do is disrespect anyone's time on this board, but I understand if you feel mislead in some way. And I do truly appreciate the help you and many others have given me. I'm not the best communicator.
Well, misunderstandings happen, but I think that it would make sense to add this information to that thread. It does, IMO, fundamentally change the situation. Mainly, to me, it means that the two of you are defining marriage and marital fidelity from scratch, and so our reactions to her actions can't be based on the usual rules.
I have more thoughts, about the interaction between submission and superior/inferior relationships in that one area of your life, versus how that may interact with the rest of your life. But those thoughts seem to belong on that thread, and I'm not going to be the one to add this information to that thread.