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 Post subject: "OCPD Good behaviors ONLY"
PostPosted: Fri Mar 22, 2013 3:37 pm 
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Joined: Tue Nov 04, 2008 3:12 pm
Posts: 721
Hi all,

This was the title of a permanent thread at the old MSN OCPD forum, but I couldn't find a comparable existing thread here, so I thought I'd start one.

List good things about your OCPDer. Don't all post at once. You might crash the server. :|

Sincerely, Paul

 Post subject: Re: "OCPD Good behaviors ONLY"
PostPosted: Fri Mar 22, 2013 3:48 pm 

Joined: Wed Oct 31, 2012 9:09 am
Posts: 1083
handsome :)
excellent sense of humor,
self satisfied( i.e. doesn"t need others approval/warm fuzzies)

 Post subject: Re: "OCPD Good behaviors ONLY"
PostPosted: Fri Mar 22, 2013 4:04 pm 

Joined: Wed Apr 07, 2010 12:17 pm
Posts: 1935
Location: SoCal - 5 yrs moved out/4 1/2 yrs broken up w/6 year live-in with OCPD b-f.
Skilled with his hands
Funny (often purposefully so)
Wonderful speaking voice
Meticulous about his grooming and personal appearance

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. – Anaïs Nin
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 Post subject: Re: "OCPD Good behaviors ONLY"
PostPosted: Fri Mar 22, 2013 7:25 pm 

Joined: Mon Feb 09, 2009 9:25 am
Posts: 4874
Always (and I mean always) has the checkbook balanced to the penny.

Married 10+ years
Diagnosed 18 years ago
Fairly good marriage

“ When people show you who they are, believe them, the first time."
― Maya Angelou

 Post subject: Re: "OCPD Good behaviors ONLY"
PostPosted: Fri Mar 22, 2013 7:28 pm 

Joined: Tue Feb 09, 2010 9:38 pm
Posts: 1978
OCPDmanager wrote:
Don't all post at once. You might crash the server. :|
:lol: :lol: :lol:

People do not change when they see the light. They change when they feel the heat.  ― Freda Lewis-Hall

 Post subject: Re: "OCPD Good behaviors ONLY"
PostPosted: Fri Mar 22, 2013 9:31 pm 

Joined: Sun Feb 03, 2013 10:17 am
Posts: 11
He is always...
GREAT beard (perfectly groomed--ZZ Top move over!)
Loyal & faithful
Fantastic audio hardware engineer and musician
Outstanding "dog dad"
Best husband a gal could ever ask for in the bathroom-wipes up after himself and ALWAYS puts the toilet seat back down!

And when he's not on one of his bezerk trips into OCPD land, he's...
Compassionate and empathetic (I know, right?!?)
Non-judgemental & tolerant (Again, how does this happen???)
Supportive & encouraging
...and plenty of other good things.

 Post subject: Re: "OCPD Good behaviors ONLY"
PostPosted: Mon Apr 01, 2013 1:39 pm 

Joined: Wed May 19, 2010 1:31 am
Posts: 401
Location: USA
I was reading that OCPD'ers are 'sensitive' almost to the point of clairvoyance. I think this might be true.
I think my OCPD husband 'knows' some of my feelings without me saying a word.

He is also:
-calm and soft spoken (most of the time)
-keeps the house safe
-begs to do the laundry (so it's done right)
-is tidy
-fixes stuff that breaks
-washes my car and changes the oil


 Post subject: Re: "OCPD Good behaviors ONLY"
PostPosted: Sat Apr 06, 2013 11:33 pm 

Joined: Sat Feb 16, 2013 8:57 am
Posts: 78
Recycles carefully even though it was originally at my insistence.
Takes out the trash and recycling
Loves his children
Amazing memory for trivia

 Post subject: Re: "OCPD Good behaviors ONLY"
PostPosted: Mon Apr 08, 2013 8:34 am 

Joined: Wed Aug 25, 2010 6:51 pm
Posts: 761
super conscientous about daily tasks.
careful about spending money wisely.
always curtious to friends family and strangers. (not me :o )
very hard working.

 Post subject: Re: "OCPD Good behaviors ONLY"
PostPosted: Thu Apr 11, 2013 10:55 pm 

Joined: Tue Feb 17, 2009 4:59 pm
Posts: 181
Unbelievably handsome

Loves to do the laundry/dishes

Has a great sense of humor (makes me laugh a lot)

Has a great laugh-and laughs a lot

Doesn't seem to have trouble making friends (not close ones-just socializing ones)

Is kind to my elderly parents

Loves his son

Dresses to the nines--all the time

Calls/texts/emails me all the time (not to check up on me but to report how his day is going, funny things, etc.)

Is loyal/faithful (even though he's very good-looking and garners a lot of attention, I would be Very surprised to find him cheating)

Is very honest

 Post subject: Re: "OCPD Good behaviors ONLY"
PostPosted: Fri May 10, 2013 8:15 am 

Joined: Wed Mar 21, 2012 6:58 pm
Posts: 110
OK, there really are a lot here, so I'll probably have to edit to add as I think of more (which has made this whole situation all the more difficult)

--Hunky (actually worked as a model in the '80's)
--Took care of little details like no one else
--LIKED to go shopping with me (it just took forever, both in getting started and coming to a decision, so we rarely got around to doing it)
--Really attentive lover (I know, unusual...but it was one of his obsessions)
--Extremely intelligent
--Cares a whole lot about social justice/the little guy
--Notices little things that are beautiful and delights in them, especially in nature
--Doesn't give up (which is, of course, a double-edged sword...)
--Like crazy challenges, like carrying an insane amount of stuff on his bicycle
--Funny (usually, though of course there were times I would deadpan something to be ridiculous, and he would accuse me of not understanding whatever, ugh!)
--Willing to be unconventional, not pressured by what society thinks is right (again, a double-edged sword--also maintains entitlement to hold ridiculous standards about some things)
--Really super strong
--Great smile
--Tries to be extremely honest
--Childlike in fun, inspiring ways
--Idealistic despite life experience

 Post subject: Re: "OCPD Good behaviors ONLY"
PostPosted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 12:21 pm 

Joined: Fri Sep 13, 2013 7:42 am
Posts: 62
Pre-kid I got really good at scrabble because I played it on my phone a lot. OCPDH and I started playing together and I was winning regularly. But then he suddenly started winning regularly. Turns out, he secretly memorized all the 2- and 3- letter words essential to good scrabble playing. It was all good-humored and endearing to me.

To summarize:

- Extremely successful at anything he sets his mind to.
- Very competative. Which is a good thing much of the time.

 Post subject: Re: "OCPD Good behaviors ONLY"
PostPosted: Sun Sep 22, 2013 1:32 pm 

Joined: Sun Apr 08, 2012 3:36 pm
Posts: 47
-very hard working
-very good with taxes (-:
-and actually very caring although at times misunderstood ;)

 Post subject: Re: "OCPD Good behaviors ONLY"
PostPosted: Mon Oct 07, 2013 9:57 pm 

Joined: Mon Oct 07, 2013 9:23 pm
Posts: 61
Thanks, you guys.

It's heart-warming to read we're not just cold-hearted nags towards our spouses.

This thread is a real pick-me-up.

 Post subject: Re: "OCPD Good behaviors ONLY"
PostPosted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 4:36 am 

Joined: Tue Nov 05, 2013 4:06 am
Posts: 19
Location: Ontario, Canada
My husband was only recently diagnosed with OCPD, but we've been together for over 6 years. I knew from the start there was something different about him and luckily he is nowhere near as bad as most of the partners you read about on this forum. I'm glad to see a thread like this on here because a lot of his OCPD qualities have a good side to them. They are as follows:

- Honesty: He is the most honest person I have ever met. Dishonesty is one of his triggers, so he holds himself to a very high standard in this area.

- Safety conscious: Since he is so into following rules, he is very aware of what is "right" and "wrong" when it comes to safety in almost any situation. He never does random dumb things that can cause accidents while driving, at work or anywhere.

- Hard working: A lot of this is probably due to his obsession with doing everything right, but he works harder than almost anyone else I know. At work, at home or anywhere I know I can count on him to get things done and get them done properly.

- Love of animals: Animals are straight forward and trained to listen and act appropriately. Because of this, he feels a special kinship and will be very relaxed with animals, so we have 3 wonderful pets together and he is so sweet with them (or any other animals we meet). He can be so gentle and loving with them and since I am also an animal lover, I find this very endearing.

Memory: One of his obsessions is dates and such, so I can always count on him to remember when ANYTHING happened. This is very helpful since I'm a total scatterbrain! He's also very good at remembering where things are and what people say and just about everything. He rarely practices selective memory, so I trust his memory almost implicitly. I'm surprised I can remember my own name sometimes, so I find this very helpful!

Loving: He is a wonderful partner because he never does anything half-assed and that includes loving me. I can always count on him to have my back 99% of the time, regardless of what is going on. He is very affectionate and I never have any doubt about where I stand in his eyes.

Time Management: Time is one of his obsessions, so he is always strictly on schedule with just about anything. I have ADHD (a very unlikely match for an OCPDer, but somehow it REALLY works), so I'm terrible with time management, but his obsession balances out my incompetence so we always get everything done together.

I'm sure I could go on with more, but I value him for the entire person that he is. This means accepting a lot of trouble with the OCPD, but it makes him who he is and there are definitely positive aspects of almost every OCPD trait he has. I love this thread, it's a great idea to allow people to focus on the positive side of the disorder. Sometimes taking a step back and counting the positives helps you battle the negatives. Excellent thread idea!

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